Lil is the author/editor of two books: Not That I’d Kiss A Girl and OTHERHOOD. She’s written for The Spinoff about lesbian stuff, had an essay about anxiety published in takahē magazine, and more. She also used to be a columnist and agony aunt for NZGirl.co.nz waaaaay back in the day. Mostly talking about: you guessed it – gay stuff.

Lil spent some time in her twenties telling her coming-out story around New Zealand as a part of Rainbow Youth's high-school education programme, which inspired her to write her memoir, Not That I'd Kiss a Girl.


Not That I’d Kiss A Girl was named in the ‘Top Ten Best of the Best’ for Auckland Libraries in 2020, and was a finalist for the US-based ‘Goldies’ Award with the Golden Crown Literary Society. Lil is also working on the screenplay for Not That I’d Kiss A Girl after it was optioned by South Pacific Pictures, with Lucy Lawless (a.ka. Xena: Warrior Princess, we die) attached to direct.

The Not That I’d Kiss A Girl the audio book is also in the works for 2024, with Lil narrating.
OTHERHOOD: Essays on Being Childless, Childfree and Child-adjacent is Lil’s second book, created with Alie Benge and Kathryn van Beek, and featuring 35 essays (and one comic) by writers from Aotearoa. It includes Lil’s essay ‘No masturbation allowed’, also published on Ensemble. OTHERHOOD was reviewed on Kete Books, Newsroom and in The Listener (glowing).

Lil has spoken at the Auckland Writers’ Festival (AWF), the Wellington VERB Writers’ Festival, the Same Same But Different Festival, WORD Christchurch, the Nelson Arts Festival and WOMAD, and has been invited to chat on a number of podcasts (favourite one: Petra Bagust’s ‘Grey Areas’). Some of her highlights have been teaching a workshop about finding your voice at the Schools Programme for AWF 2021, and chairing the OTHERHOOD session at AWF 2024.

For her day job Lil is a globally award-winning copywriter for big brands. She teaches people how to write in an accessible way, and is really good at writing about boring topics like insurance and banking, which she secretly loves.